Some people may find it weird, the process I am walking with
the chickens here at the farm, and the fascination I have developed with them.
I myself can’t completely explain it. What I am able to put into words though,
is what I am learning about myself through not only the chickens, but all the
animals on the farm. This includes dogs, horses, parrots, bugs, rats and frogs.
I had an experience recently that inspired me to finally
write about my process with the animals. The experience involved a hen with a
pretty bad injury on her foot. It happened as I was walking through the chicken
coop to retrieve a bucket, when, as usual, all the chickens came running
towards and gathering around me with great vigour in hopes to be fed. This
particular hen was slower, coming real close and holding up her foot in a
gesture that caught my attention. It almost seemed to me like she was showing
it to me, as I saw a bad wound on one of her toes. Interestingly, I immediately
felt guilty, as if I had in some way caused it by unknowingly stepping on it,
or by opening the door on it.
Already, there are two red flags that I noticed, which I have
been learning through interacting with the animals. The first is thinking the
hen was showing me her foot. Here, it is important to not impose my thoughts or
beliefs onto the actions of an animal in an attempt to anthropomorphise the
communication, because there is no way to know for sure, so there is a risk of
mis-interpreting the situation because I only have my side of the story. The
second thing is to not bring my emotions into interactions with animals. Through
both common sense and experience, I have seen that bringing emotions into animal
relationships only ever causes problems, either between animals, or between
myself and the animal.
The interesting thing here is that these two behaviours that
I am correcting within myself in relation to animals can also be applied with
humans. For example, how often do we only look at our own side of a situation,
interpreting what we see and believing it to be the truth or the reality of the
situation, without first checking or cross-referencing the information with another?
We can so easily invent entire dramas in our own minds, missing important
information, going into reactions that affect our behaviour and that can even
put a wedge in the relationship, sometimes without it ever being fully resolved.
So, for the first red flag moment of believing I was having a
special communication with the hen, I quickly let go of my own beliefs, and
took away the objective information only: that there was a wound and the hen was limping,
and I would need to ask someone whether there was anything we could do for her.
The second red flag involved me bringing an emotion into the
interaction, in this case ‘guilt’. This behaviour can also be applied in human
relations: When we act from a starting point of emotion, for example, ‘guilt’, we
are not being sincere in our actions, and we are not addressing the root cause
of whatever problem we are feeling guilty about. Let’s say you buy a child, a
friend or a family member gifts out of guilt that you are not spending enough
time with them. The solution would be to make time to spend with them in a
sustainable way, and not bring guilt into your presence when with that person, because it will usually have a consequential impact on them. Also, when we do this, we make it all about US, how WE are feeling and what will make
ME feel better about MYself. This allows for the root-cause behaviour to
continue, it takes away from the sincerity of the gesture and the opportunity
for real, unconditional giving, unconditional care, and unconditional support
for another.
When it came time for me to be taught how to handle the
situation in terms of actually treating the wounded hen, I was a bit apprehensive thinking about how silly I would look clumsily
chasing around a chicken, and then I saw images of those long, sharp, bacteria filled
chicken claws cutting through my skin and causing some life-threatening
bacterial infection.
What I have learned about approaching animals in preparation
for some task I need to complete with them, is that I must be very direct with
my intentions. Because there is no way for me to directly communicate with the
animal, the only thing we have going on between us is Who We Are in the moment:
our presence, our body language, our movement, and anything else the animal can
pick up on that we humans may not be aware of.
To do this, it is necessary to check our starting point. For
me, in this situation, I could not cloud the interaction with feelings of guilt
or remorse, worries of hurting or scaring the animal, projections of the animal
hurting me or fears of looking silly. When the interaction is clouded in this
way, it becomes confusing, if the animal does not cooperate, the reactions
build and the situation becomes tense, unpleasant and more accident-prone.
So I focused on my intention, even speaking it out loud as I
was directing myself with the hen. And as all the chickens scurried about, the
hen stood still. I approached, leaned over, and simply picked her up. Now, speaking
to the hen may seem like a contradiction after having stated there is no direct
communication going on between myself and the animal. But the thing is, I was
speaking as much for myself as I was for her. Making sure my intentions were
clear and focusing on my sound and my words supported me to focus, not on the
temptation of my mind to go into the emotions, self-judgments and projections, but
on the task at hand: to disinfect the wound, prevent infection and promote
healing, which, although would sting, would be in the best interest of the hen
in the long run. I brought her into the shed, treated the wound, opened the door
and let her out. She promptly ran back to the coop, and my task was complete.
In all my experiences with catching chickens here at the
farm, never before has a chicken let me simply approach and pick it up. There
is always a chase, a cornering and a bit of a struggle. I will never know if
the chicken somehow understood that I was there to help her, although
admittedly, that is what I would have liked to believe. But that too, I must
let go, otherwise I risk to try to turn it into something special or a bigger
deal than what is actually is. If I do this, then I will create expectations to
re-live the experience, disappointments when it does not go the same way, fears
of losing the experience, and all sorts of other mind-clouding internal
energetic noise that will take away from the purity and sincerity of future
moments and interactions to come.
Again, these principles would only be of benefit when
interacting with others in the human world. How often is our communication
clouded with false intent, ulterior motives and secret desires or expectations,
which, when unmet, lead us to feeling disappointed with ourselves or the other?
When our intentions are clear and in true consideration of the best interest of
all parties involved, and when we have not imposed any kind of beliefs of
motives into the relationship, we develop real trust, honesty and openness. In
a world of corruption, abuse, lies and deceit, we can actually birth a small
slice of heaven between us, creating a space where we can express and learn
about who we really are and can be, rippling the trust and openness into
existence, both existentially if that is how you want to see it, or by example,
through our interactions with those in our lives and worlds.
Within working with animals over these past 5 months or so, I
have seen an improvement with how we interact and work together. So far my
successes have come when I check my starting point to make sure I am not only
considering myself, to make sure I am clear with my intentions, that I
understand what I am doing and have a plan, and lastly, to stand within myself
as the authority of myself, not allowing or accepting my mind to scatter in different
directions chasing worries, fears, projections and judgments.
It is within these situations of challenge that is presented
by working with animals that we are really shown whether or not we have that self-authority
that allows us to decide who we are in the moment, or if we rather have a mind
that has never been mastered as the tool it actually is or at least, should be.
This is a skill, and what I described above with the chicken shows how I am
learning how to develop these qualities that create a quality of interaction
that extends far beyond chickens and other animals, and into the realm of the
human. Without this, we are subject to the chaos of the mind, being pushed and
pulled by thoughts and reactions, fears and projections, worries and doubts. We
are brought to highs and lows that affect who we are in moments, which then
taints our relationships, causing all sorts of unnecessary consequences of varying
degrees.
The animals we are fortunate enough to become close to are a
tremendous support in this sense, as they exist in the simplicity of the
moment - that quantum, timeless moment where everything exists all at once. And if we accept their invitation, they open the door for us to simply walk through and meet them there.
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